I posted about this a few times already on Facebook. Gay rights. Gay acceptance. LGBT and maybe a couple of other letters. I fully believe that who a person is sexually starts before birth. It’s in the DNA. As Madonna sings a person is “born this way.” Or that way. Or, whatever! It is impossible to change the innate chemistry and makeup, and nobody should have to do it.
But, seeing all the upheaval in the news about Tim McGraw’s daughter Gracie, has me wanting to write a “Marla’s Musings” about it. So, here goes.
First, she did not just come out. Gracie has openly expressed her sexuality on Instagram (and perhaps other social media) for as long as I can remember. She is a free spirit, expressive, talented, young woman and she posts candidly about her life. She is an adult. I applaud the ease that she seems to show in being who she is. I know she has a great support system.
Living in 2025 I think we have certainly learned more from science, and we have learned more from the gay community themselves speaking out. With openness should come a better education. And, also acceptance. By the way, they have always been here, as a part of humanity, but they are finding courage to let us know now.
But, STILL, yes, there is still a VERY closed minded group that continues to be judgmental. I saw a lot of it in the comments on Gracie McGraw’s Instagram page. It was horrific what was written. Painful. I hurt for her just reading it. I can only imagine how frightening it was for her to read what strangers put on her page.
Gracie is the latest example of extreme and vocal homophobia. I doubt that there is any gay person alive who has not experienced something mean said to them, or experienced a condescending look – from people who for some reason think they have the right to give their opinion and don’t hold back. These people think they are better, or normal, or doing God’s work. Ugh
Well, let me tell you…
Doing God’s work means to love everyone. Everyone!!! God is pretty fanatical about that. You can find it all over the Bible. And, to tell you the truth, I think it is much harder to love that mean person, or someone who constantly lies, who is pompous, and acts better than others. I know I should love them too, but, boy, it is definitely tough. Yet, God tells me that even those people, the ones who cause the pain, are His.
I have had people in my life who have been secretly gay (I’m pretty sure), some who are ‘out’ and living their best life, and then those who can’t let them be – and they even call themselves Christians. In fact, it is often those who believe they are religious who like to say being gay is a sin. Oh, they sure do! These same people are heterosexuals who can’t get past others having relations with same sex partners. “It was not what God intended.” “Procreation requires a male and female.” “Our bodies weren’t made that way.” You have heard it. I don’t believe it is a sin. Love is not sinful. God is love. So…
It’s time to get over it!!
It is time to work on YOU if you have an issue with the gay community. Because, really, they just want to live side by side with you, in this world, loving another person, and having a family. They DO NOT want to make your children gay – and really, they can’t. They do not want to change people. They want all the same rights. They SHOULD have all the same rights!!
So…. It is time to reach out, to learn, to allow yourself a new way of thinking.
Because, they are not the problem. You are.
Since this is June – and it is Gay Pride month: Stop being judgmental. Celebrate it with them!
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Marla’s Musings 